Lead to Win VI. Get People to Listen to You
Without coersion or having to raise your voice.
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Dr. Elena tightened her grip on the edge of the conference table.
Her notes lay perfectly aligned in front of her—a detailed plan to streamline patient care in the department.
She had worked on it for weeks, analyzing data, refining her arguments, and rehearsing exactly how she would present it.
But now, as the meeting raged on, she hadn’t said a word.
The senior administrator was speaking again, his voice loud and unyielding, pacing as he outlined his vision for reorganizing the workflow.
“This is the best way forward,” he said, gesturing broadly, his tone leaving little room for debate.
Elena opened her mouth to counter him but stopped when the chair of surgery leaned forward, cutting him off to propose an entirely different plan.
Elena glanced at the clock.
Twenty-five minutes into the meeting, and no one had even paused to ask for other perspectives.
The discussion churned on like a runaway train, with voices crashing into one another.
Her pulse quickened.
I have a better plan, she thought.
Why can’t they see that?
She leaned forward, ready to interject.
“I think—”
“Let me finish my point,” the administrator said sharply, not even glancing in her direction.
The words hit her like a wall.
She froze, heat creeping into her cheeks.
The meeting was unraveling into a tangle of arguments and competing voices, each person determined to dominate the conversation.
Elena felt smaller with every passing second.
She looked down at her notes, the words blurring together.
This wasn’t the way she’d imagined it.
Her mind raced.
Should I raise my voice?
Should I just interrupt?
Would they even care if I did?
She tried again.
“Actually, I’d like to propose—”
“Hold on,” another voice snapped, cutting her off mid-sentence.
Elena sank back into her chair, her throat tight.
She had prepared for everything—data, questions, objections—but she hadn’t prepared for this.
The constant interruptions, the noise, the feeling of being invisible.
By the time the meeting wrapped up, decisions had been made—she felt so discouraged her ideas had never left the table.
How do I get people to listen me?
She soliloquied.
This is How to Get People to Listen to You
Maybe you’re going through a similar situation as Elena’s.
Or maybe you’re the administrator/surgeon who imposes themselves on others rather than pacing yourself and choosing to build relationships with them.
Below you’ll get the most dignified, effective, and powerful way to get people to listen to you and give you the respect you deserve without coersion or having to raise your voice.
I synthesize lessons from the Stoic Cato and the contemporary philosopher and acclaimed author, Robert Greene.
Here’s how to get people to listen to you…
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